While there aren’t as many Sugar Daddies out there as there are Sugar Babies, finding a match is still much like finding a needle in a haystack. You should be prepared to date at least a few men before settling on one Sugar Daddy.
There are a lot of reasons for this to happen. Your personalities or schedules may not be compatible. Your locations may be too distant. And in some cases, you may simply not be in the right time of your lives to become a good match, because you want and need different things.
It is often during and after your research phase that you find out whether you want things to move forward with a Sugar Daddy or not. This is the time when you find out if he’s been lying about something which is important to you such as his Job, his income or his family.
No matter what the reason is, you need to be able to say a resolute “No” if you do not wish to date a Sugar Daddy, and you need to do it in a way that doesn’t allow any argument. He needs to know that you are serious about your decision and will not reconsider it, so that he doesn’t try approaching you again.
More than that, you need to make sure you stay safe at all times while engaging in online dating, because some rich and powerful men certainly don’t know what rejection looks like. Following some of the security tips we suggested before like using a disposable phone and withdrawing specific information about your location will help protect your safety should a sugar dating experience turn sour.
Aside from the common reasons mentioned above, here are other factors that you should take into account when weeding out potential Sugar Daddies:
- His location isn’t ideal. We’ve briefly mentioned cases when a Sugar Daddy’s location may be undesirable, but this can be more of a problem than you think. There are time zones to be considered, time-consuming travel, tight schedules which are difficult to conciliate and, worse yet, you may end up stranded in a strange location should things not go well during a meeting and your Sugar Daddy acts less like a gentleman than he did before.
- Sweet but very sour. Sweet talkers are to be kept at an arm’s length. They will date you, they might even meet you a couple of times, but they are usually up to no good and rarely commit to any mutually beneficial agreements. They may just be playboys who think they can’t be tamed, but they may also not have the funds for sugar dating or have an even bigger secret, so they are definitely not worth risking everything for.
Whatever the circumstances are, it is never easy to say “No” to a Sugar Daddy, because rich people aren’t at all used to being rejected, especially when there is money on the line. So while not all Sugar Daddies will become stalkers or violent men, they may have a hard time believing you would pass on their undoubtedly generous offers.
Here are my tried-and-true tips for letting Sugar Daddies down easily.
- Choose Honesty. It is understandable for you to want to keep your options open as well not wanting to hurt or offend a Sugar Daddy. However, honesty is always the best practice. You should let any potential Sugar Daddies go as soon as you know your relationship won’t work out. Be honest from the start, and let them know your reasons if that feels right.
- Time is money, don’t waste any. Sugar Daddies have much money and little time, while you have a lot of time but no money. If a Sugar Daddy insists on contacting you after being rejected, remind him that he is wasting his time and money on you, but do it gently, so you don’t spur his chasing instincts on.
- Ditch the novelty. Some Sugar Daddies are novelty seekers, which means they are looking for someone to try new things with. This can be fun and help open your horizons, but men like these get easily bored and are very hard to tie down. So while you can totally take advantage of fun, unusual dates, you should cross these men out as potential Sugar Daddies and end the relationship sooner rather than later.
- Do not engage. Some Sugar Daddies will try to engage in conversation with you after being rejected, because their interest hasn’t truly waned. You should not engage, unless you really mean to give them a second chance, otherwise you’re just wasting time and leading them on.
- Block and report. Some men who can’t take a “No” for an answer will continue pestering you online and through your phone, if you’ve moved that far in the relationship. You may be able to block him or hide your profile from him on the website, and that is a good start. If he won’t let go and starts truly harassing you, then you should report him and let the website admins deal with the problem. As for your phone, you can easily block his number or have your service provider do it, so that he can’t reach you ever again.
If you find that a Sugar Daddy will continue to harass you even after taking the steps above, then you should take legal action against him. This is particularly important if he does have a criminal record or if you have actually given him your address. You can only do this if you have evidence to back your claims up though, so never erase any texts, emails or messages that might incriminate him.
Weeding out Sugar Daddies will never be easy, as we are talking about real men here, some of which are truly sweet and gentlemanly. You need to stay focused and keep your actual goals in mind, so that you don’t stray from the path you set for yourself when you entered the lifestyle. If you like a Sugar Daddy but he doesn’t provide something which is important to you, then it is time to say goodbye and move on to something better.
The good news is that weeding out bad Sugar Daddies will help you find, as well as, focus on the good ones and move on to the next step. Read my next article to find out what I mean.